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Mating: A Novel (National Book Award Winner) Paperback – International Edition, September 1, 1992
“Luminous . . . Few books evoke the state of love at its apogee.” —The New York Times Book Review
“The best rendering of erotic politics . . . since D.H. Lawrence. . . . The voice of Rush’s narrator is immediate, instructive and endearing.”—The New York Review of Books
One of The Atlantic’s Great American Novels of the Past 100 Years
The narrator of this splendidly expansive novel of high intellect and grand passion is an American anthropologist at loose ends in the South African republic of Botswana. She has a noble and exacting mind, a compelling waist, and a busted thesis project. She also has a yen for Nelson Denoon, a charismatic intellectual who is rumored to have founded a secretive and unorthodox utopian society in a remote corner of the Kalahari—one in which he is virtually the only man.
What ensues is an exhilarating quest and an exuberant comedy of manners: “A dryly comic love story about grown-up people who take the life of the mind seriously.” —Newsweek
- Print length496 pages
- LanguageEnglish
- Publication dateSeptember 1, 1992
- Dimensions5.23 x 1.08 x 7.95 inches
- ISBN-10067973709X
- ISBN-13978-0679737094
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Mating is a fiercely intelligent, hugely ambitious novel that takes on feminism, socialism, political corruption, foreign-sponsored rural development projects, and, yes, male-female relations in ways that are simultaneously hilarious and disturbing. Certainly Rush's language is a big part of what makes the novel work: the narrator's combination of elevated vocabulary and wacky non sequiturs is inspired. When, for example, Denoon explains to her that most of the women in Tsau are celibate and therefore so is he, she reflects that "of course the spiritus rector of a female community would need to be a sexual solitary, at least during the foundational period." She then wonders if "this situation was the analog of western series on television where the female watchership shrank to nothing when the producers let the marshal get married." Mating is remarkable for its wit, its acuity, and its ability to satirize without demeaning; it's also a heck of an entertaining story. Jane Austen would have been proud. --Alix Wilber
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“The best rendering of erotic politics…since D.H. Lawrence…a marvelous novel, one in which a resolutely independent voice claims new imaginative territory…The voice of Rush’s narrator is immediate, instructive and endearing.” –The New York Review of Books
“Witty, raunchy…prodigiously aspiring…a remarkable book…His protagonist is a memorable female character: a continually shifting prism that revolves from dashing to needy, from witty to morose…wonderfully varied and pungent.” –Los Angeles Times Book Review
“A dryly comic love story about grown-up people who take the life of the mind seriously and know they sometimes sound silly…Mating is state-of-the-art artifice.” –Newsweek
“It draws the reader steadily in. Not toward the heart of darkness but toward brilliant illumination.”-The New York Times
“Bold and ambitious…delightful, provocative.”–San Francisco Chronicle
“Brilliantly written…utterly sui generis!...Rush has alerted us to the transfiguring power of passion…He deploys the narrative voice with…brio…wit and persuasiveness.”–Mirabella
“An audaciously clever novel with substance as well as flash.” –Detroit Free Press
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- Publisher : Knopf Doubleday Publishing Group
- Publication date : September 1, 1992
- Language : English
- Print length : 496 pages
- ISBN-10 : 067973709X
- ISBN-13 : 978-0679737094
- Item Weight : 14.4 ounces
- Dimensions : 5.23 x 1.08 x 7.95 inches
- Best Sellers Rank: #152,946 in Books (See Top 100 in Books)
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Customers find the book worth reading and appreciate its subtle humor. However, the plot receives mixed reactions, with some finding it compelling while others describe it as discombobulated. The writing quality and character development also get mixed reviews - while some find it well written, others say it's hard to read, and while some find the characters engaging, others find them uninteresting. The pacing is slow-moving, and several customers find the book boring.
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"This is a pretty luminous book and long parts of it will probably stick with me for a long time" Read more
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"Darned if I know what to say about this book. I found it truly compelling, in the sense that I couldn't move on to read anything else until I had..." Read more
Customers find the book humorous.
"...It isn't always an easy read, but it makes you laugh, it makes you sad, and it makes you think...." Read more
"...insightfully humorous." Read more
"A sly, subtly humorous book about relationships set in a model community in Botswana...." Read more
Customers have mixed opinions about the plot of the book, with some finding it great while others describe it as a discombobulated story.
"...A thoughtful and even compelling story, despite occasional pedantry. Worth reading." Read more
"...Profusely overwritten and overclever, MATING is also incomprehensibly dull--I found myself skimming over whole paragraphs about halfway through,..." Read more
"...Despite that though, it contains truly sublime passages, such as that at Victoria Falls, which feels like an apotheosis of allegorical ecstasy...." Read more
"...quick to say that I was reading an amazing book but that it was very difficult and I didn't know whether to recommend it or not...." Read more
Customers have mixed opinions about the writing quality of the book, with some finding it well written and appreciating the author's love of language, while others report that it is hard to read and the text is unreadable.
"Norman Rush is a good writer. This book though, gets to be tiresome after a while...." Read more
"...The inflated tone and pompous affect of the narrator, which chagrined certain readers here (I see), certainly registered with me as I read, but I..." Read more
"...who never even bothered finishing this beautiful and sophisticated piece of literature." Read more
"...Profusely overwritten and overclever, MATING is also incomprehensibly dull--I found myself skimming over whole paragraphs about halfway through,..." Read more
Customers have mixed opinions about the character development in the book, with some appreciating it while others find the characters uninteresting.
"...it so much that I want to go back for another visit with these amazing characters...." Read more
"...All to say, he is not as merciful to his characters as even Nabokov is to his...." Read more
"...The main two characters are highly educated, opinionated, and argumentative; we observe these people change and their relationship develop through..." Read more
"I hated everything about this book. The characters were pretentious shallow and utterly unlikable...." Read more
Customers find the book unlikable and boring, with one customer noting it becomes tiresome after a while.
"Norman Rush is a good writer. This book though, gets to be tiresome after a while...." Read more
"Not sure what people saw in this. I found it stupid and a chore to read." Read more
"Had some interesting philosophical moments but too often was just blah blah blah...." Read more
"...The writing was pretentious and entirely unrelatable. Every 10th word you needed a dictionary to look up its meaning...." Read more
Customers find the pacing of the book sometimes slow moving.
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"...The story was engaging enough but slow to get to the point and I'm still not yet at the point a good third of the way in." Read more
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- Reviewed in the United States on May 12, 2025This is a pretty luminous book and long parts of it will probably stick with me for a long time
- Reviewed in the United States on June 2, 2025Norman Rush has produced a remarkable literary novel, at several levels. The protagonist is a female anthropologist in Botswana, who introduces herself in Gaborone to a radical thinker and social reformer, Nelson Denoon, founder of the majority-female, isolated new town of Tsau, located in the desert. During the unfolding story of ideas, social and sensual experimentation that ensues, minds and bodies mate, disengage under stress, and potentially reengage. A thoughtful and even compelling story, despite occasional pedantry. Worth reading.
- Reviewed in the United States on December 16, 2013Norman Rush is a good writer. This book though, gets to be tiresome after a while. But the thoughts of the principal character are agood read on people, especially those like myself operating outside typical western culture. His take on embassy gatherings is right on. I have been to Botswana, and I know it to be a strange place compared to other African venues, but the main setting of this book is very, very unusual. That is OK, though, and the weird village and its idealistic sponsor are a good match. A lot of introspection, maybe too much for me, and to little on African attitudes towads this crazy "couple."
- Reviewed in the United States on January 5, 2007It's been years since I first read Mating and am just starting it again (which i almost never do) because I loved it so much that I want to go back for another visit with these amazing characters. I've read a lot, but retain little, because while so many of the critics of this book want something that sticks close to "reality," I find the best books are the ones that invent something totally unusual with characters compelling in their flaws and their virtues. I've also spent some time with the overeducated-expat-in-a-strange-land community, so frankly, i didn't find these characters all that "unbelievable" for their self-absorption, bizarre love triangles, or vocabularic gymnastics. If you love DeLillo, Joyce, Garcia Marquez, and Allende, you're probably going to love this book. If you liked The Time Traveler's Wife, you'll probably like this, too. If you were a Literature or Philosophy major who loved college/grad school and secretly miss the pomposity and the naivete, then you're going to love this book, because it puts you back in the land of discovery again. It isn't always an easy read, but it makes you laugh, it makes you sad, and it makes you think. If you're looking for mindless entertainment, this isn't the book, but if you're ready for a literary adventure, don't miss Mating.
- Reviewed in the United States on June 12, 2023Not sure what people saw in this. I found it stupid and a chore to read.
- Reviewed in the United States on June 14, 2024Besides the references to Plath’s Ariel and also syntactical patterning taken from The Bell Jar, you’ll find plenty of evidence in these pages to substantiate the theory that the narrative voice is heavily influenced by Sylvia Plath’s Esther Greenwood of The Bell Jar. What Plath understood and Rush doesn’t seem to, though, is that a well-placed silence can be more moving than the language (however clever or menacing or rapt or gorgeously engineered) fitted against it. To wit: he does not have the poet’s instinct for ruthless self-editing. And this book would be better if he did.
The inflated tone and pompous affect of the narrator, which chagrined certain readers here (I see), certainly registered with me as I read, but I interpreted it as an intentionally comical element. Rush seemed to want to tightrope walk between gravitas and hilarity, and mostly I think he succeeds. That said, the self-indulgent nature of his narrator outgrows his control at times (I think), and when this happens, the story slackens.
There’s also a kind of authorial judgment (severe if well-founded) that seeps through the narrative voice and undermines its believability and authenticity. There are certainly those people to whom seeming “good” or “virtuous” causes an existential allergic reaction, and this narrator is one of them. Even assuming she is kinder than her contrarian facade would lead us to believe, still the hypocrisies he spews through her mouth at times feel less to be her conscientiously inviting judgment but the author passing judgment on her in a way that feels condescending (and that makes this reader feel he was not all to fond of his narrator or what he sees her as emblematic of).
All to say, he is not as merciful to his characters as even Nabokov is to his. And this will irk some readers, no doubt, perhaps lead them to lose loyalty and abandon the story. Flaubert takes such risks. Many good writers do. That said, there is a somewhat ungenerous quality to this book with regards to its subjects. Spiritually stingy toward its characters, etc. Despite that though, it contains truly sublime passages, such as that at Victoria Falls, which feels like an apotheosis of allegorical ecstasy.
Then you get to Denoon’s political diatribes later on, and it feels like you’re in a classroom and should be taking notes on so many platitudes trying not to be platitudes. Unclear whether or not this character is meant to compel the reader as he does the narrator. For me, politics completely aside, he seems to suffer from the verbal equivalent of flatulence. Not sure these characters, for all their lexical bravura, escape their symbolic armatures.
- Reviewed in the United States on November 9, 2010This is a so called novel of ideas. Its main topics are romantic utopias and political utopias (and their overlap). The novel offers insights into political and social organization, and about the intellectual and emotional dynamics of a relationship.
Although I see why some readers comment that the novel should have been edited and that it is digressive, it seems to me they are missing the point. The main two characters are highly educated, opinionated, and argumentative; we observe these people change and their relationship develop through their thoughts, self-examinations, and conversations.
In its ambition and intellectual playfulness, "Mating" reminds me of Byatt's novels. And yes, I needed a dictionary, why is that a problem?
The Paris Review recently published an interview with Norman Rush that I find interesting and helpful to appreciate better this novel; available on line:
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- JustermanReviewed in the United Kingdom on December 1, 2013
5.0 out of 5 stars Can't change fonts on Kindle version
This is a really great novel and I couldn't resist buying a copy for my Kindle. Even though I already have two paper copies.
I have to give it 5 stars because of the writing, but you can't change the font. I guess this is primarily the publisher's mistake, so shame on you Granta for getting this wrong. This problem has been highlighted in the forums for a long time now. Please correct it, and let us update our copies.
The font provided is a serif font, so tolerable for me.
- Mr F Marslen-WilsonReviewed in the United Kingdom on January 16, 2014
4.0 out of 5 stars Enthralling
One becomes the narrator, an anthropologist in Botswana, as she pursues a relationship with an enigmatic man in an admittedly somewhat implausible matriarchal community. The writing is witty, clever, and full of thought-provoking observations. Some longeurs that are eminently skipable but definitely one to savour.
- CReviewed in the United Kingdom on November 20, 2013
3.0 out of 5 stars Too clever for its own good.
I was hoping to like this book after his new book Subtle Bodies was reviewed in the London Review of Books and Rush rated as a contemporary D.H Lawrence. So before buying Subtle Bodies I thought I'd read some of his earlier work. I enjoyed parts of it and some of his writing was uniquely phrased and interesting. But I certainly didn't think it a pro-feminist book as far as the main character was concerned - it was a woman strategically running after a man who has a commanding position of authority, that's Mills & Boon. However, it was very intelligently written, but almost too intelligently at times. I was unable to grasp a lot of what was going on due to the peppering if pseudo-intellectual words, phrases and diatribes which seemed placed frequently enough in order to throw me off the scent of what the book was really about. I quite liked the characters and probably would have enjoyed it more so, if I could have fully understood what the hell was going on. Anyhow, I lost impetus about two-thirds of the way through - I put it down one night, alas to never pick it up again. Is he the new D. H Lawrence? For this, definitely not, Lawrence has the unique ability to understand the way a woman thinks, almost better than a woman herself, Rush unfortunately failed there. I may get around to reading Subtle Bodies, but I won't be rushing Mr Rush.
- Penelope EReviewed in the United Kingdom on July 2, 2014
5.0 out of 5 stars A desert island book. I would read it repeatedly ...
A desert island book. I would read it repeatedly just for the company of a narrator who is clever, sardonic, passionate, above all alive to the world and all its beauties and nonsense.
- nicola roeReviewed in the United Kingdom on January 20, 2018
5.0 out of 5 stars Great read
Didn't want it to end